A conversation we all need but few feel ready to start.

Discussing end-of-life care is one of the most important and compassionate conversations you can have with your loved ones. Yet, many of us avoid it out of discomfort, fear, or a belief that “there’s still time.” But planning ahead gives your family peace of mind, ensures your wishes are respected, and fosters a deeper connection when it matters most.

So, how do you begin?

1. Choose the Right Time and Setting

This isn’t a talk to squeeze in during a busy afternoon or over text. Choose a quiet, private setting where you can speak openly without distractions. Some families find it helpful to frame the conversation around a recent experience or story,perhaps someone else’s situation that raised awareness.

2. Be Honest, But Gentle

Your tone matters. Approach the topic with care and vulnerability. Let your loved one know that you’re coming from a place of love, not fear. For example:

“I’ve been thinking about what matters most to me, and I realised we’ve never really talked about what you’d want if something happened. I’d like to know,so I can support you in the best way possible.”

3. Discuss the Key Areas

There are several aspects of end-of-life care that may come up, such as:

• Medical treatments and preferences (e.g. resuscitation, ventilation)

• Hospice and palliative care options

• Where they would prefer to receive care (at home, hospital, care facility)

• Legal matters (wills, power of attorney, advanced directives)

• Emotional and spiritual wishes

It’s not about getting it all done in one sitting,it’s about opening the door.